Divorce or the dissolution of marriage is the termination of a marital union, the canceling of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and the dissolving of the bonds of matrimony between a married couple. It is legal almost all over the world except for Philippines and Vatican which has a different process. The rate of divorce has increased markedly since the twentieth century and has become commonplace in nations such as the United states, the United kingdom, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Germany and Scandinavia.
Divorce comes with a lot of baggage, it is stressful and can mar one for life especially the kids involved. It can go on for years in court while trying to share property, fight for spousal support and the worst of all custody of the children. This is the most terrible, because it exposes children to an unhealthy relationship and shows them the other sides of their parents especially the darker sides. The worst part is that it can linger for years and might even last longer than the actual marriage, we all know the story of Kim Kardashian who filed for divorce from her husband Kris Humphreys after 72 days of marriage but officially got divorced almost two years later. I know people that have gone through this and it is hell!!!!!
We can go on and on about the damage divorce causes, but then again we should consider the benefits. Yea yea scream that there are no benefits. But you must know that everything that has a disadvantage has an advantage, if not why do cockroaches have economic importance? Gotcha! :p. Divorce can bring an end to years of hardship and pain, don’t get it twisted, I’m not totally pro divorce but in some cases, you just have to accept it. Divorce can actually bring an end to the misery of children in damaged homes. We can stay on the surface and judge all we like but a lot of children are suffering in homes characterized by violence and hatred. They stay day after day knowing that there is no peace in their homes. These children have been damaged emotionally, mentally and might not even know love, if you were a child in this kind of home, wouldn’t you want your parents to get divorced so you can have peace? Women are mostly victims of abuse, if you had a sister and her husbands stays plummeting her day after day, wouldn’t you hire a divorce attorney for her immediately? Or if your brother’s wife does nothing but try to reduce him to nothing, wouldn’t you advice him to divorce her? Yes we are all pro divorce just that we haven’t had the reason to come out clean.
As I said before, I’m not totally for or totally against divorce, I wouldn’t even want to get divorced, but "I’ll rather have my children love my husband and I separately, than make them hate us together" simply because I wouldn’t want to get divorced. Marriage is not a do or die affair. In fact the rate at which people get married is steady declining, with lots of people having children out of wedlock, as to avoid the emotional stress that comes with divorce. I am not for this new trend because the bible teaches us to get married before having kids. In the same light, I do not blame people that opt for this. The world is crazy.
Divorce has its disadvantages but we cannot rule out the gains, just that embarking on the journey to divorce is just like being trapped between the devil and the deep blue sea, hell fire or sharks. If you survive you might end up happier or scarred….. Let’s think of our children, GET MARRIED ONLY FOR THE RIGHT REASONS!
Adanna Elechi
I agree totally.v
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